Key Questions Answered

1. What do you need to make the most of your relationship with us? 

The short answer:

Honesty and authenticity. And clarify about what you want to achieve. 

The long explanation: 

Key to transformative change is an open heart and an open mind and an untethered imagination. No great sailor became his best self on tranquil seas. The storms of life teach him or her to be calm in the face of turbulence, to master self-confidence and self-assurance and to turn within to trust in himself and the power that resides there. 

The fool tries to fix the world. The wise person changes themselves and so equips him or herself to see the world in a new light. They affirm and focus on self-love and it is this that makes all the difference. All our life experiences exist to bring us to this trough of healed insight. To drink of it and to imbue it in every aspect of our being. A great gardener listens to the needs of all the plants in the garden. He or she weeds out all negative influences that impede healthy growth. Self-knowledge is dry if not brought to application. And there lies the rub. Our inner conversations dictate our lives. We may see what we want and what our value is – but unless we own it, emotionally, we will come up short.

To embrace real change means to embrace our positive emotions and live from gratitude rather than to affirm fear and worry. It’s not just positive affirmations, it is also fully embracing gratitude and its power to transform the epigenetic stories in the body. This can reverse sickness, even chronic illness and return normalcy and balance to the body. Healing the mind means embracing a happy vibrant heart free of any accent on victim hood.

The belief in lack creates all upset. The deeper awareness of our abundance and plenitude stems from a deep well within us that embraces and celebrates our power. To trespass or miss the mark on our value is to undermine ourselves. Your world blooms when you love yourself. You cannot love another until you have mastered self-love. There would be no psychotherapists in the world if we knew how to love ourselves. Loving comes down to listening to what matters. To listen to what matters one must train one’s sights on the heart. The heart does not believe in limits. 

Walt Whitman wrote: 

Re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem.

We are like magnets. We attract the underlying content of our minds, When our inner conversations are based on fear we create painful realities for ourselves. Then a cycle of deception can take over our lives. Introspection and insight can shift our behaviors to shape a totally different personality. One that nourishes and extends love rather than judgment and stuck records, broken hearts and burned bridges. 

When we born into situations where emotional intelligence isn’t prioritized it takes a different kind of self-talk to surpass and transcend the personality that trauma shapes. 

Forgiveness, gratitude and self love are all children of the same affirmation. That affirmation is: “I am love.” Love is sensitive, aware and guided by an intelligence that sees right to the heart of things.

Whitman again:

I am the poet of the woman the same as the man, And I say it is as great to be a woman as to be a man, And I say there is nothing greater than the mother of a man.”

A woman needs emotional security for herself and her child. That need is programmed into her. But just because the programming is there does not mean that it is automatically fully awakened. 

When trauma impacts our lives we have a choice to disenthrall ourselves from the fearful beliefs and behaviors that attracted it in in the first place and to create new stories that cultivate a narrative of being blessed and saved from the errors of the past. 

As Emerson witnessed:

There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried.

Joseph Campbell expressed the same sentiment in with greater brevity: 

What we don’t experience positively we will experience negatively.

So we are the arbiters of what we make of our lives. 

This is ultimately true. Still, the right catalyst at the right time can have a powerful and uplifting impact. A loving mirror to help pull out what is good and healthy and balanced in us can transform our lives. 

That is the focus of the democratic spirit. To see, to voice and to celebrate what is best in you and I. 

Whitman saw the significance of this:

“...few probably are the minds, that fully comprehend the aptness of that phrase, 


which we inherit from the lips of Abraham Lincoln;…

I know nothing more rare, even in this country, than a fit scientific estimate and reverent appreciation of the People—of their measureless wealth of latent power and capacity, their vast, artistic contrasts of lights and shades—with, in America, their entire reliability in emergencies, and a certain breadth of historic grandeur, of peace or war, far surpassing all the vaunted samples of book-heroes, or any haut ton coteries, in all the records of the world.”

A teacher gives you information and helps to draw out your gifts. But he or she is the expert. With a coach, you are the expert on yourself. No one else can be said to know you as well as you do! 

The job of a coach is to get you to “teach” him. To show him/her ‘the measureless wealth of latent power and capacity’ within you, and the aspirations that define your best self: in short: to capitalize on the blessing of being most fully and most authentically you.

2. Why we do it? 

We are inspired to coach because it feels to be part of our metier, our gifts in this life. Having learned to love oneself we are inspired to share the good news. 

We have seen the impact of dedication to goals and focus and keeping the faith in our own lives and the quest of mastery is to liberate the mind. 

Liberation simply means to remember who you are. To not lead our lives based on investment in fear, rather to focus on wisdom and faith in the strengths within us. 

Life is a school and the purpose of that school is to master positive emotions and gratitude for our lives. A deeply happy person is no accident. They flower and blossom when an integrated view of themselves is fully awakened. 

We can blame the world for our outer circumstances or we can go within and take charge of our lives in inspiring ways. 

We affirm that you have the power to create the life of your dreams and whatever life you do have, whatever reality you experience, is, ultimately your creation. This is a deeply inspiring revelation. It means by keeping the faith in your imagination and yourself you have the keys to every lock metaphorically speaking. To celebrate this beautiful conviction – this is why we do what we do. It is the harbinger of all hope and meaning in life. 

Neville Goddard, perhaps the greatest interpreter of the allegorical meaning in the Bible, wrote the following passages in his essay titled: “No one to change but self,”:

Jesus turning to his disciples is man turning to his disciplined mind in self-contemplation. 

You ask yourself the question, “Whom do men say that I am?” In our language, “I wonder what men think of me?” 

Because consciousness is the only reality I must assume that I am already that which I desire to be. 

If I do not believe that I am already what I want to be, then I remain as I am and die in this limitation. 

Man is always looking for some prop on which to lean. He is always looking for some excuse to justify failure. This revelation gives man no excuse for failure. His concept of himself is the cause of all the circumstances of his life. 

All changes must first come from within himself; and if he does not change on the outside it is because he has not changed within. But man does not like to feel that he is solely responsible for the conditions of his life.

I may not like what I have just heard, that I must turn to my own consciousness as to the only reality, the only foundation on which all phenomena can be explained. It was easier living when I could blame another. It was much easier living when I could blame society for my ills, or point a finger across the sea. and blame another nation. It was easier living when I could blame the weather for the way I feel.

But to tell me that I am the cause of all that happens to me that I am forever molding my world in harmony with my inner nature, that is more than man is willing to accept. If this is true, to whom would I go? 

If these are the words of eternal life, I must return to them, even though they seem so difficult to digest. 

When man fully understands this, he knows that public opinion does not matter, for men only tell him who he is. 

The behavior of men constantly tell me who I have conceived myself to be. If I accept this challenge and begin to live by it, I finally reach the point that is called the great prayer of the Bible. It is related in the 17th chapter of the Gospel of St. John,

 “I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do.” John 17:4 

“And now, O Father, glorify thou me with thine own self with the glory which I had with thee before the world was.” John 17:5

“While I was with them in the world, I kept them in thy name: those that thou gavest me I have kept, and none of them is lost, but the son of perdition.” John 17:12

It is impossible for anything to be lost. In this divine economy nothing can be lost, it cannot even pass away. The little flower which has bloomed once, blooms forever. It is invisible to you here with your limited focus, but it blooms forever in the larger dimension of your being, and tomorrow you will encounter it.

All that thou gavest me I have kept in thy name, and none have I lost save the son of perdition.”

The son of perdition means simply the belief in loss. Son is a concept, an idea. Perdido is loss. I have only truly lost the concept of loss, for nothing can be lost.

I can descend from the sphere where the thing itself now lives, and as I descend in consciousness to a lower level within myself it passes from my world. 

I say, “I have lost my health. I have lost my wealth. I have lost my standing in the community. I have lost faith. I have lost a thousand things.” 

But the things in themselves, having once been real in my world, can never cease to be. They never become unreal with the passage of time.

I, by my descent in consciousness to a lower level, cause these things to disappear from my sight and I say, “They have gone; they are finished as far as my world goes.” All I need do is to ascend to the level where they are eternal, and they once more objectify themselves and appear as realities within my world.

The crux of the whole 17th chapter of the Gospel of St. John is found in the 19th verse, “And for their sake I sanctify myself, that they also might be sanctified through the truth.”

We at sutranovum abide by this wisdom fully and wholeheartedly. The wisdom of self-love.